Many years ago, when I sat down with my mom and talked to her about something I’d read in a book. That we should consider our parents as our best friends, I’d been shocked when she said No.
She explained it, though and that explanation has stuck with me to this day
Your dad and I are not your best friends, sweetheart. We can be friendly, but not friends. If we become your friends, that dictates that you tell us everything, every secret you’ve been entrusted with, because that’s what you do when you have a best friend.
But you need to have secrets, there are some things that you need to learn by yourself. We will always try to shield you if we knew of everything you wanted to do. And if we let you throw away opportunities like that, we’ll be bad friends, right?
There should be a few secrets between sisters, inside jokes that only you both know about, that you’ll giggle and shake your heads if we ask you.
There should be a few things you could decide not to tell us, not anything major, though! I’d whack you for that! But smaller things that are between you and your friends.
So no, we’re not best friends, sweetheart, we’re your parents.
It was a long talk which makes so much more sense as the years pass. It was important for me to be able to make that distinction and I love my mom all the more for it!
So I’m not going to say she’s my best friend and I’m not going to say I tell her everything. But I do tell her almost everything and I can count on her to always be there when I need her and sometimes when I don’t even know I need her.
She’s not always on my side and she’s the one to call out the things she believed are wrong.
So thank you for being you,Mom
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom!
So for Wandering Soul’s Story Continuation Prompt for this week is Mother so I linked this one. Go visit her blog !
May 8, 2016 at 10:50 am
Thank u so much sweetie…I love you .
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May 8, 2016 at 12:49 pm
Happy Mother’s day to your mom too..if not for her, I wouldn’t have Sonali as a friend..so cheers to all the moms around, they have brought up some excellent children…one being you…and another being me 😀 can’t talk about everybody ryt? Have a fantastico day!
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May 8, 2016 at 1:11 pm
Thanks,😀😀😀
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May 8, 2016 at 12:49 pm
Btw are you cooking today Sonali? Surely mum would be really happy 😉😉
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May 8, 2016 at 1:12 pm
I’m not cooking today but we ordered lunch instead!
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May 8, 2016 at 1:23 pm
Same here 😄😄 same pinch
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May 10, 2016 at 8:47 am
this is just sooooo sweet! ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ Happy Mother's Day to your mom! ❤
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May 10, 2016 at 10:04 am
Thank You😊 I’ll wish her from your side😀
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May 10, 2016 at 2:05 pm
Thank you! 😀
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May 14, 2016 at 9:42 am
That makes so much sense. I always say my mother is my best friend, but sometimes being best friends is not for the best. She is a mother and will always be so.
And I also see your mother’s a blogger too. Wonderful! Great post!
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May 14, 2016 at 9:43 am
Thanks,😀. Her advice is something that stayed with me throughout.
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May 14, 2016 at 11:53 pm
What an amazing distinction! I do agree with your mother. She did well with raising her children. Mothers deserve more than a day, their existence we should always celebrate. Best regards to your mom!
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May 14, 2016 at 11:55 pm
Thank You! Yes they absolutely do. They deserve to have every day dedicated to them for the amount of work they do, the effort they put into raising us. I’ll relay your wishes to my mother, thank you from her side😊
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May 15, 2016 at 12:15 am
Wonderful! I’ll go check her blog too! And I’m sure will follow. Cooking is one of our bonding momenfs by the way.
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May 15, 2016 at 12:17 am
My mom taught me how to cook, I’m not as good as her, but I hope to be someday!😀
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May 17, 2016 at 8:38 pm
I Love this! Mostly because it is how we too have tried to parent our children. It is warming to my heart to see other parents valued this perspective too. Thank you for sharing such beautiful, loving, wisdom! Hugs!,
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May 17, 2016 at 8:42 pm
Thank You so much for your comment😊 and for dropping by!
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June 4, 2016 at 12:47 am
Oh! This is lovely. My mum says the opposite sometimes because we too, have our inside jokes that people don’t understand. This is quite an interesting perspective and I agree with your mom too! ^_^
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June 4, 2016 at 9:52 am
😊
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